OPEN DOOR COMMUNCATION October 2012 E-News

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Upcoming Events

In Long Beach: Peaceful Living: an Introduction to Compassionate Communication, Fri. Oct. 25 7-9 pm and Sat. Oct. 26, 9 to 5, with Mary Mackenzie, author and certified trainer. For more info and to register, contact: Marlene Clanton
marleneclanton@hotmail.com, 805-234-3138.

In Irvine: Compassionate Communication every Thursday 7-9pm. Drop-ins welcome. A short topic each week, then we apply a variety of activities (floor cards, role plays, dialogs and more) to real life situations. Led by Terry LePage at the Center for Living Peace, 4139 Campus Drive, across from UCI, between Lee's and Focus Dance. Request $15 or what you can contribute. Register at the door. For more information call 949-400-3379 or email Terry.

10/4 - Moving Beyond Labels
10/11 - The Partnership Paradigm: Compassion for Change
10/18 - Guest Facilitator
10/25 - Guest Facilitator
11/1 - Basics: Connecting through Universal Human Needs
11/8 - Basics: Feelings: Reading the Signals
11/15 - Basics: Observation: the First Step to Compassion

In Santa Monica: NVC Practice Groups with Gail McManus: Monday and Wednesday evenings 7:15-9pm. Newcomers welcome. Please contact Gail at 518- 653-2957, gailkmcmanus@gmail.com.

In Irvine: Compassionate Parenting Tools Wednesdays 10am-12pm. Parent your values and become a compassionate, effective parent. 10-week curriculum; drop-ins welcome. Led by certified parent educators Terry LePage, Tova Pusl and Monika Larsen at the Center for Living Peace, 4139 Campus Drive. Download the flyer here. For more information call 949-400-3379 or email Terry. Check out the FAQ and the class schedule too. $25 per class; sliding fee scale available upon request. Quality child care included. You may register at the door, but reserve child care by Tuesday noon. This class will be ongoing during the school year but check for holiday breaks.

Parenting Classes around Southern California including weeknights, and Saturdays, in Spanish and English, are available from Echo Parenting and Education.

Workshops and Groups in Santa Monica and Santa Barbara with Rodger Sorrow and Anne Walton: see www.chooseconnection.com/

Other resources: NVC Academy has a wide variety of NVC telecourses and audio & video recordings of past courses. NVC World has links to NVC resources of all types.

Compassionate Communication and Parenting Tips

Communication Tip: Investing in Communication
How much time do you invest in communication at work, at home, or in your friendships? Effective communication takes time, reflection, care, and skills. These things are always in short supply in our culture.

I recently began a collaborative teaching project. One month in, we have invested many hours planning and debriefing and honestly sharing our passions and struggles, using the tools of Compassionate Communication. Nobody would have paid us for all those hours. Yet I discover myself looking forward to our meetings and calls, because of the trust and understanding I feel for these collaborators. It is worth the investment.

If you value a relationship, quality communication is worth the investment. Don't wait until the relationship is struggling. Invest on the front end, and enjoy the dividends.

Parenting Tip: Helping Your Child "Fit In"
Children need to belong, to be appreciated, and to have fun. As they enter new situations like a classroom, playgroup or sports team, they may not know how to meet those needs right away. Parents can't do it for them.

We can be emotional coaches, helping our child express his feelings and needs, and eventually inviting him to develop creative solutions. What emotional coaches don't do is offer judgments about "doing it right." We listen empathetically, occasionally reflecting back an observation, a feeling or a need. "So the other kids already know each other and you don't. That sounds lonely."

Belonging is an important need for everyone. Kids who haven't yet figured out how to fit in are likely to feel frustrated, anxious or withdrawn. They are at risk for picking up all kinds of labels and even diagnoses if they take time learning to fit in. Wise parents and teachers will partner with a child who is struggling to belong, coaching her in understanding her needs and figuring out how to meet them.

Our children will not fit into every situation. Some groups just don't fit a person's needs, and others are not safe or respectful. We can help our children celebrate where they do belong, and mourn where they do not. And we can give them belonging, acceptance, understanding and encouragement at home.

The two words 'information' and 'communication'
are often used interchangeably,
but they signify quite different things.
Information is giving out; communication is getting through.

-Sydney J. Harris

 

Terry LePage
Open Door Communication
terry@opendoorcommunication.org
www.OpenDoorCommunication.org
949-400-3379

Mission of Open Door Communication
To share Compassionate Communication and related life-serving tools with people from all walks of life in Southern California by:
1. Offering workshops, mediation, and coaching,
2. Establishing practice groups and mentoring resource people to multiply impact, and
3. Facilitating supportive relationships among practitioners.

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